More people than ever are representing themselves in family court. In 2026, it's estimated that over 80% of family court cases involve at least one litigant in person — someone without a solicitor or barrister acting on their behalf. If you're one of them, these ten tips will help you navigate the process.
1. Prepare Thoroughly: Preparation is everything. Before your hearing, make sure you understand exactly what the hearing is about, what orders have been made previously, and what you want to ask the court to do. Write down your key points and practise explaining them clearly and concisely.
2. Organise Your Documents: Create a court bundle — a clearly organised folder of all relevant documents, numbered and tabbed. Include any previous court orders, your position statement, evidence (such as text messages, emails, or medical records), and any CAFCASS reports. Bring at least three copies: one for you, one for the judge, and one for the other party.
3. Write a Position Statement: A position statement is a short document (usually 1-2 pages) that sets out your case to the judge. It should explain who you are, what the case is about, what orders you're asking for, and why. Keep it factual and child-focused. The judge will read this before the hearing, so it's your chance to make a strong first impression.
4. Focus on the Children: In children cases, the court's paramount consideration is the welfare of the child. Everything you say should be framed in terms of what's best for the child — not what you want or what's fair to you. Avoid personal attacks on the other party and focus on practical, child-centred proposals.
5. Know the Law (Basics): You don't need to be a legal expert, but understanding the basics helps. For child arrangement orders, familiarise yourself with Section 1 of the Children Act 1989 (the welfare checklist). For financial matters, understand the factors in Section 25 of the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973.
6. Dress Appropriately and Be Respectful: First impressions matter. Dress smartly and conservatively. Address the judge as 'Sir', 'Madam', or 'Your Honour' (for circuit judges). Stand when the judge enters and leaves the room. Be polite, even if the other party isn't.
7. Stay Calm and Focused: Family court hearings are emotional, but losing your temper will only harm your case. If you feel yourself getting upset, ask the judge for a short break. Stick to the facts and avoid being drawn into arguments with the other party.
8. Take Notes: Bring a notepad and pen and take notes during the hearing. Write down anything the judge says, any orders made, and any deadlines. It's easy to forget details when you're under pressure, so having written notes is invaluable.
9. Consider a McKenzie Friend: If you're feeling overwhelmed, a McKenzie Friend can sit beside you in court and provide quiet support, help you organise your documents, and suggest questions to ask. At Castle Family Legal, our McKenzie Friend service is designed specifically for litigants in person who need affordable, compassionate help.
10. Follow Up Promptly: After your hearing, make sure you comply with any court orders within the required timeframes. If you've been asked to file documents, attend mediation, or take any other steps, do so promptly. Non-compliance can seriously damage your case.
Representing yourself in family court isn't easy, but with good preparation and the right support, you can present your case effectively. If you'd like help preparing for a hearing or need a McKenzie Friend by your side, contact Castle Family Legal for a confidential discussion.
